It finally dawned on me that regardless of the label that an astrologer tags himself with i.e. astrologer, counselling astrologer, counsellor (!), spiritual guide, etc, what he does is rather divine. Merriam Webster defines divine as “of, relating to, or proceeding directly from God”. And yes, your own version of “God”, not necessarily the biblical God.Read More »
I was watching the TV series “The Restaurant” where celebrities are invited to head up a kitchen and cook for diners and food critics. The identity of the celebrity for each episode is not revealed to everyone until the very end of the show. During the course of the dinner, you can hear different people in the restaurant guessing, for a start, the gender of the celebrity and some go on to hazard a guess at the real identity of him/her.
What’s especially interesting to me is that the diners seem to make assumption about the gender of the celebrity chef based on the menu. Apparently, for this episode, most of the diners think that the chef is a man because of these dishes:
- starters: poached egg on asparagus served with hollandaise sauce & pâté served with sour dough bread and chutney
- mains: venison & lobster linguine
- desserts: chocolate brandy & custard tart
I don’t get how the majority of the Irish diners associate the above menu with a man. Or in the first place, the association of certain food to a person’s gender. Isn’t that some stereotypical thinking at work?
Which also made me think of masculinity and femininity which are represented by Mars and Venus respectively. And also to some extent, the Sun and Moon respectively. The idea that both concepts are social constructs has been presented to me recently. I have never really thought about that before. But the more I think about it, the more I realise the validity to the notion.
For example, “a man doesn’t wear a skirt”. Except the Scots with their kilts. Except the Asian men with their sarongs. I wonder how did the unspoken rule came about? Who makes the rules as to whether it’s acceptable for a men to wear a skirt? The answer: society. In other words, masculinity i.e. the notion of what a man is is primarily determined by society. This shouldn’t be a surprise to us. But for those who have problems with not fitting into society’s definition of what a man or woman should be, why not be comfortable with your own version of masculinity, femininity or for some of you, gender fluidity?
Oh yes, the celebrity for tonight’s episode is state pathologist of Ireland, Marie Cassidy, a woman.
I have always found the role of Venus and Mars in heterosexual and homosexual men and women confusing. What follows are my thoughts on the subject which is a work in progress.
Amongst many things, Venus and Mars represent the femininity and the masculinity principle respectively. The key is to know:
- the principle a person identify herself/himself with; and
- the principle the person identifies for and attaches to the partner/sexual interest.
Most women, whether straight or gay, identify with the femininity principle within them i.e. Venus. Venus represents how they see themselves as a woman, how womanly they feel. It represents their womanhood in essence. Thus when we would like to explore how they express their femininity including their sexual preferences, we look at their Venus to do that. However, there might be “more masculine” lesbians or straight women who identifies themselves stronger with the Mars in their chart. Then, we would look at their Mars for their sexual preferences.
For straight women, we would look at their Mars to appreciate the type of men that turns them on. That is unless the straight gal assigns Venus to her man. Conversely for gay women, we would look at either Venus or Mars to understand the type of women that excites them, depending on the principle that the person identifies for and attaches to them.
The above reasoning is applied to men as well:
Most men, whether straight or gay, identify with the masculinity principle within them i.e. Mars. Mars represents how they see themselves as a man, how manly they feel. It represents their manhood in essence. Thus when we would like to explore how they express their masculinity including their sexual preferences, we look at their Mars to do that. However, there might be “more feminine” gays or straight men who identifies strongly with the Venus in their chart. Then, we would look at their Venus for their sexual preferences.
For straight men, we would look at their Venus to appreciate the type of Venus that turns them on. That is unless the straight dude assigns Mars to her woman. Conversely for gay men, we would look at either Mars or Venus to understand the type of men that excites them, depending on the principle that the person identifies for and attaches to them.
What about transgender folks? Again, I think it’s the principle that they identify with and assign to others. For the genderless folks, I think you would consider both Venus and Mars as it seems that they are equally balanced in the Yin and Yang side of things.
There is something very alluring in what I read just now:
The individual (with a Venus-Pluto aspect) needs to trust that another person will really love them – and all of them, not just their beauty, their sex-appeal, their power or their money. The lesson for the type is often to learn to risk giving the other person enough space to find out if they really do care, enough space to discover if they will hang around even if they don’t have to.
Tompkins from Aspects in Astrology
For those where the above quote is speaking to you, the author is not wrong – one has to “learn to risk” to love, without this compulsive need to control (the outcome). To learn to let go of the need to manipulate or compulsively desire that somebody. It is what the quote by Gibran says “If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours.If they don’t, they never were.”